Sunday, November 27, 2011

Quote of the Week


"We did not change as we grew older; we just became more clearly ourselves.

 -- Lynn Hall

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Dearest Da,

9 years. As of the 14th, it's been nine years since you've gone off to that yet-to-be-definitively-named-or-even-proven-to-exist-place over yonder. Is it the beyond, da? Is there somewhere beyond where I am living and breathing? Are love and memories truly bridges that link the gulf that separates us? Or is there nothing?

Momma is doing well, da. She's back in school, slowly but surely taking steps toward the EdM she gave up on getting the moment she realized that life grew inside of her. My life. Did you ever feel guilty, da. as I sometimes do? Momma gave up her dreams and a career of her own to become your devoted wife and my loving momma. Oh, she has told me time and time again that her dream of being a mom--my mom--is far stronger and much more important than her dream of being a teacher. She did teach me well; I wouldn't have been the successful young woman I am today without her by my side. But still...I feel sad whenever I think about all those lost years and missed opportunities. 

I think I understand you now, da. It's weird how it is in retrospect that I see who you are with clarity. When you didn't shower me with hugs and kisses as a child (like mom did, and still does) or show me much affection, it wasn't because you didn't love me; it was because you never really knew how. But you tried, da. I see that not. You may not have always said "I love you," but you expressed it in your own way. It was in the way you preferred to tell me non-Disney bedtime versions of fairy tales over the phone; you wanted me to know different sides to every story, and to search for my own truth. Your love was in the way you insisted that I take martial arts classes instead of the voice lessons momma wanted. It wasn't because you wanted me to be the son you always wanted but momma never gave birth to; it was because you wanted me to be able to protect myself in times when you could not.

Once in a while I go over your old letters and your old Filofax. The pages are dog-eared, tear-stained, and some are yellowed with age. Ink's faded on some passages, and it's difficult to figure out if you went to visit Dr.  Shen for an EKG or if you kicked the shin of some dude named EG. But no matter. I've memorized your words and held them close.

You've been gone for about a third of my life and you've missed well over half of my life because, well, the Constitution and safety of our country had to come first. But in some ways, those lost years don't matter anymore. I love you, da, and because love is alive, you've grown and changed with me through the years even if you'll always be on the edge of 64 and 2002.

I'll be seeing you again, da. And when I come rushing into your arms, I will once again be that pudgy, pig-tailed little girl with the lacy dress and binoculars, demanding, "Spin me again, daddy! Spin me again!" Someday, I'll dance with you again. 

Quote of the Week


"Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it." 

-- Madeleine L'Engle

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Quote of the Week

“Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful."

 -- Thomas Paine 

Friday, November 11, 2011

Bucket List

Build a house on a cliff that overlooks the sea.

Graduate from university at the top of my class and with at least one award.
Backpack across Europe for at least 6 months.

Go on a hot air balloon ride at sunrise.

Learn how to ride a bike and then a motorcycle

Go on a motorcycle ride through the coast or the countryside.

Fall in love.

Experience heartbreak

Learn how to trust and fall in love again.

Move to Turkey.

Go to Troy, where the valiant Hector once stood.

Dance in the rain.

Dance in the rain with a man I love.

Watch a scary movie without once covering my eyes or hiding behind something or someone. 

Own a cat.

Get a tattoo.

Watch the perfect sunrise.

Watch the perfect sunset.

Experience a perfect moment.

Speak fluent Euskara.

Hug a stranger.

Kiss a stranger.

Jump into the sea or into a pool full-clothed.

Cut off my long hair.

Send an anonymous love letter to someone telling them how amazing and so worthy of being loved they are.

Open a restaurant.

Howl at the moon...naked.

Find the dilapidated fortress I've dreamt of since I was 11.

Go on a road trip Americana.

Ride a mechanical bull.

Meet "The One."

Adopt a child.

Be a great mom like my momma.

Don't speak English for a day.

Enter a cheesy karaoke contest.

Kiss a dolphin.

Face and conquer most of my fears.

Stay in a cave house in Kapadokya.

Start a non-profit organization that empowers refugees and honour crime survivors through education and livelihood workshops.

Walk down the aisle to 'Ka Wailele o Nu'uanu" instead of the traditional wedding march.

Be silent for a day.

Finish and publish "Before This Anger."

Finish and publish "Three Alohas for Nalu."

Meet Simon Cowell and congratulate him on having bigger boobs than I do.

Ask Pope Benedict if he really does wear Armani sunnies and Prada loafers. 

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Quote of the Week


"The worst part of holding the memories is not the pain. It's the loneliness of it. Memories need to be shared."

 -- Lois Lowry

Friday, November 4, 2011

30 Day Challenge, Day 9: Something that you're proud of in the past few days

I've always been proud of my momma, but these days I am absolutely beaming with pride. See, her childhood dream had always been to teach little kids. She was actually a teacher, but then I was born and my da told her to stay at home to raise me. She never stopped teaching, though. She was my first teacher, after all. She taught me how to read and write by the time I was three years old, and was the reason why I tested into first grade level when I was in kindergarten. (Momma decided against letting me skip grades; she wanted me to be with kids my own age.) 

Anyway. She's back in school now, starting over with the end goal of getting a Master's in Education. Momma's retired now, and instead of spending her retirement playing golf or singing karaoke all day, she's hitting the books. She's doing really well, too; her grades are in the B+/A- range!

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

30 Day Challenge, Day 8: Short term goals for the next month and why


Before art, linguistics, politics, womanism and social activism, writing was my first love. My momma loves to tell the story of how, when I was about three, I became so curious and jealous of her signing credit card receipts that I insisted that she teach me how to write my name as well. By age five I wrote little poems, and by seven I was so sad about Bambi's mom's death that I re-wrote Bambi to have a happy ending with her playing with her grandchildren.Simply put, writing was my world.

But then life sort of got in the way. It was during my uni years when writing began to lose its magic, its wonder. Writing term papers on political economy and Sharia Law became the norm and before I knew it, I barely had time to write for myself. Later on, I wrote grant proposals and reports on gender violence, genocide and war. Writing became something I had to do. Because it became an obligation, I avoided writing during my free time. I created art. I hiked. I wrote e-mails. I scheduled "Quote of the Week" posts for this blog. But I didn't write for the sake of writing.

I would like to re-claim the magic I felt as a three-year-old, which is why I'm joining NaNoWriMo , which stands for National Novel Writing Month. Every year in November, participants are given the task of writing at least 50,000 words. There are no "winners" per se; you get kudos for completing it. It will certainly be an interesting time, and I hope I can complete this task.

We must never permit the voice of humanity
within us to be silenced. It is Man's sympathy with all creatures that first makes him a Man.

--Albert Schweitzer

Everything can be taken from a man or a woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.

--Viktor E. Frankl